When I was growing up I got this question a lot. "Why can't you be more like your sister?" Mostly it was from teachers. "I see your sister is a peer helper. Why can't you get better grades". That is an exact quote from my stupid 6th grade teacher. (good thing I don't hold grudges..ha ha!)
These days I get this dreaded question. "Stacy, why aren't you married yet"?
Of course living in Utah, the capital of getting married at 19, I have gotten this question a lot over the years. But I get it a lot more now that I am reacquainting myself with friends from highschool and college. (Ah Facebook...you are a blessing AND a curse). "Oh Stacy, you were such a social butterfly in college...we all were just trying to keep up with you". I appreciate that you think I'm so wonderful that I should have been snatched up by now, but clearly it hasn't happened yet, and in case you think I hadn't noticed...I had.
The funny thing is that I think some of these people really want an answer. Like I know the secret to why I'm not married. I usually give them a silly answer like "oh, well you know, all the men keep turning me down when I propose". But the truth is....who the heck knows.
Yes, I came really close to getting married once, many years ago. This person was wonderful. The love of my life. I am probably still in love with him if truth be told. But the timing wasn't right. We were in different places in life. But it wasn't right and that's ok. Now he is married and has a son. I hope he is happy in life.
I get LOTS of advice on what to do to find a spouse. Oh...you should go to singles activities. Oh, you should go to parties. Oh, you should go out of your comfort zone. Oh..you should internet date. My cousins friend's uncle's neighbor's sister met her husband on blah blah blah.com. I've been set up on a few blind dates which have gone either really badly, or really great, only to never hear from the person again.
The truth is, I have tried internet dating. Once. It was horrible. I will write about that one of these days. It's a pretty funny story.
Anyway, I don't know why I'm not married. Nor do I know why the earth spins on an axis. Or why my left eye is a little more round than my right eye. Maybe one day I will learn the answers to all these questions. But I am happy. I am single. I am woman..hear me roar. I'm ok with it. Will you try to be ok with it too, please?